Choosing to place your baby up for adoption is a really difficult decision, and it’s OK not to be sure yet. Even if you’ve been planning an adoption throughout your pregnancy, things can change once you’ve delivered your baby. You might experience feelings of doubt and confusion and — if you’ve just given birth — medication and hormones can make it even harder to think clearly. If you are feeling unsure, we encourage you to take extra time before making a decision.

What are my options if I’m not sure about adoption?

If you are still pregnant: 

You cannot sign adoption papers until at least 48 hours after delivery. Until then:

• You’re making an adoption plan, not a final decision
• You can explore parenting and adoption side by side
• Some women find it helpful to have a plan for both

Seeing both options clearly can ease pressure and bring clarity.

If you are still in the hospital:

If you’ve just given birth and aren’t sure what to do next, you don’t have to decide on your own.

You can:

• Ask your nurse or hospital social worker to connect you with a licensed adoption agency
• Speak with an adoption specialist while you’re still in the hospital
• Learn about adoption without committing to anything

An adoption specialist can:

• explain your options clearly
• answer questions about next steps
• help you slow things down if everything feels overwhelming

Nothing is final at this stage. Taking time to gather information is part of taking care of yourself — and your baby.

Most hospitals discharge you and your baby after about 48 hours. You can take your baby home while you decide. This does mean being prepared with basics like a car seat, diapers and a safe place to take your baby.

If taking your baby home doesn’t feel possible, Adoption Advocates can offer interim (temporary) care, sometimes called cradle care. This is a temporary situation where a family can provide care for your child for up to 14 days.

There’s no rule that says you have to decide immediately.

If you are already caring for your baby or young child:

You will continue to care for the child in your home as you explore your options.

• Talk through adoption with your adoption specialist
• Create a a parenting plan
• Explore what options fit your situation

There’s no one-size-fits-all path.

Sometimes talking about your options can help. Our adoption specialists are here to listen — without judgement or pressure. We want what’s best for you and your baby. We’ll support your decision, no matter what you decide.